Nowadays, many women feel empowered to propose to their beloved significant others. Some dream of proposing on Valentine’s Day, while others have a different date of significance picked out. But it wasn’t always this way. According to an old Irish tradition, it was only acceptable for women to propose on Leap Day. That’s right – just one opportunity every four years! Here, Peter & Co. Jewelers talks about the tradition and considerations for your proposal, no matter the day you decide to pop the question.
An Irish Tradition for Leap Year
According to Irish tradition, on Feb. 29, women can propose to their boyfriends and turn the tables to ask for their hands in marriage.
Legend says that in the 5th century, St. Brigid of Kildare complained to St. Patrick that women had to wait for men to propose. After listening to the complaint, St. Patrick said women could propose to men—but it could only be on Feb. 29, which happens once every four years — including 2024.
The tradition was taken to Scotland by Irish monks. In 1288, Scotland passed a law that said women were allowed to propose to the men of their dreams on Leap Day. What’s more, any man who declined had to pay a fine, which could range from a kiss to payment for a silk dress or a pair of gloves. Lore says unmarried Queen Margaret added that women who were proposing had to wear a red petticoat while doing so.
Another tale says that St. Brigid immediately proposed to St. Patrick after the decree. He declined the offer but kissed St. Brigid on the cheek and offered her a silk gown. In some upper-class European societies, if a man declined a woman’s proposal, he would have to buy 12 pairs of gloves for the lady.
Other Names for Leap Day
While today we know Feb. 29 as Leap Day, the day has been given other names, including:
Bachelor’s Day
In England, Feb. 29 was believed to have no legal status because it wasn’t recognized as an official day, so traditions would have no status on that day. Women took advantage of this and would propose marriage to men on this day, thus giving it the name of Bachelor’s Day.
Sadie Hawkins’ Day
In the United States, Feb. 29 is known as Sadie Hawkins’ Day. Many girls would ask boys to attend school dances or go on dates on this day.
How to Propose
Are you tired of waiting around for your significant other to get the hint that you’re ready for a proposal? Why not take it into your own hands and pop the big question yourself? Here are some dos and don’ts of proposing on Leap Day or any other time of the year:
- DO make it a thoughtful moment, but not too romantic.
- DON’T shame your partner into not proposing.
- DO make it a private and personal affair.
- DON’T propose in public or with an audience.
- DON’T propose with a ring.
- DO propose with an alternative gift, like a watch.
A proposal should be unique and meaningful to the couple but also a personal and intimate affair. Keep your partner in mind if you plan to propose, and make it something special that the two of you will remember!
Find the Perfect Gift at Peter & Co. Jewelers
Ladies, whether you are choosing this Leap Day or planning a proposal for a later date, Peter & Co. Jewelers has all the jewelry items you could want to make the moment perfect. If you don’t know where to start, visit our Jewelry Gift Guide to get you started.
Shop Peter & Co. Jewelers’ vast selection of watches, rings, bracelets, and more by visiting our store in Avon Lake, Ohio, proudly serving the Cleveland, OH, area. Customers outside of the area can shop for the same great selection on our website, with stunningly accurate photography to help you make your decision. As always, feel free to call or text 440-933-4871 with any questions.